“I cannot date, love, let alone marry a broke (with little or less than sufficient in terms of financial strength) guy” the young woman shared while in a singles (un married) meeting.
“I have had enough relationship with ‘broke’ to last me a lifetime during my upbringing . He should be earning descent money to take care of me.” She said.
While in the same meeting, a young man laments “loving a broke girl /woman comes with baggage… I wouldn’t want to walk down that road.”
Money is for some more important than love. The thought of even entering into a relationship without owning it or concrete guarantees of getting it, especially spells doom from the onset for many of us. On the contrary for some, love is the more important test for entering into a relationship; it makes their world go round.
For the lovers of money, it is at this point that my pious friends will give you the moral high ground about love and money shaken together quote- “money is the root of all evil.” Not only is the scripture misquoted [“For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.” – 1 Tim 6:10], it makes those who have a lot more money seem evil.
It is damning and idolatry to the minds of a few people, to grasp or even toy with the idea of anyone wanting or having a lot of money; even worse when a person (s) have both love and money in abundance. One would then ask which of the two would you be willing live without? That is a question, I will leave to you my friend.
We were designed to thrive better with both. Money isn’t the root of all evil. It is the obsessive lust for it and the abominable things which we would do to satisfy the craving for it which makes it evil. If the desire turns into an obsession, to the point of greed, at which point it begins to control us, then that is what makes money the root of all kinds of evil.
Wanting or even having both is by all means the most ideal situation. Do you ever question or wonder if when life’s stage is set with both scenes; ‘love with no money’, and ‘money with no love’, which choice of scene you as an actor would set your cast? Each actor’s choice of scene will be one in which even when subjected to the highest of temperatures, s/he will still fit perfectly into the mould pre-set by the scene. It will depict which of the two aspects the actor(s) places the highest value on. Considering that people are lovers of money today just as it was in the past is nothing new under the sun; yet in today the scarcity, hunt and desire for money seems to consume us at higher degrees. May be its just my perception as I imagine the prostitute who often weighs between falling in love with this regular customer and collecting the money with no semblance of love! She ends up preferring the latter. Can you have both? Should you have both? Can you function with one and not the other?……
I will be back …..